Who Is The Victim?

Have you ever been in a position that you have been blamed of projecting a certain position on something and you know that was not what your intention was? The person that is accusing you has so twisted what you said and made it into what they wanted you to say. The one accusing denies their own behavior but accuses you or someone else of doing exactly what they are doing. Wow, does this get confusing!?

I believe they do see the bad behavior they are doing but they do not want to admit there can be any negative behavior in their-self so they have to attribute that image to someone else. The more they focus on other people the more the focus becomes on them. It doesn’t take long before everyone starts to see it.

It has taken me a while to learn that you can not change that person. That person must want to change. If they make accusations of others and they are always the victim then there will never be an opportunity for defense. If they make an accusation against you and they see you angry just one time, that is all they need to call you an angry person!

Their deception or denial of the attacks they have made are all normal in dealing with the attacks. The family usually ends up in a depressive state and begins to withdraw and hide from the abuse. It is best to walk away and pray they will get the help they need to change who they are. You can keep your head held high knowing that you tried your best to be a friend when others could not befriend them. You can not change them.

Often they will self diagnose medical problems to gain attention. This is part of the emotional disease. They know the right buttons to push for the intended response.

Please seek help for yourself in dealing with a person of this nature. It can be life changing and heart breaking at the same time. I did.

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You Are Worth Fixing

We’ve all known people that it is never their fault. Right?

They like to find someone to blame their problems on so they never have to take responsibility of them,
The anger and self-righteousness are a disturbing feeling of excitement to them because it means they are off the hook for their own issues.

It takes a mature person to accept and admit they have screwed up their own life up.

All by themselves. Their negative thinking, always fantasizing in their mind, then letting others know how it is someone else that has caused the problem. They never acknowledge that they may actually be the problem.

It is abuse to their family and all those who have to interact with this type of person.
They usually make people anxious about being around them, and they are never truly respected because of the displays of their weaknesses. The problem is that many times they get the help …too late… after the people that did love them,  chose to not associate with them anymore. Their family suffers so much undeserving abuse.

And the cycle continues……if you do not seek professional help.

~You deserve it     ~ Your family deserves it~

~The world needs the wonderful you!~

Take control of your life by blaming other less – Fix You
Your Negative thinking is making life hard for your family and you – Fix You
Try admitting your mistakes and decide to – Fix You

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CPS: Failure to Protect Our Children while Assaulting the Family

“The Adoption and Safe Families Act, set in motion by President Bill Clinton, offered cash “bonuses” to the states for every child they adopted out of foster care. In order to receive the “adoption incentive bonuses,” local child protective services need more children. They must have merchandise (children) that sells and you must have plenty of them so the buyer can choose. Some counties are known to give a $4,000.00 bonus for each child adopted and an additional $2,000.00 for a “special needs” child. Employees work to keep the federal dollars flowing.”

This is a re-post from The Stay-at-Home Feminist Mom

Justin and Marsha Harris are Evil Frauds

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The gluten made her do it: How going gluten free saved my daughter’s mental health

www.Shared from www.anchoragepress.com I absolutely believe in everything about this article and that is why I’m sharing it.  Please read it.    Shared from http://www.anchoragepress.com

I sat next to a white wall decorated with neon alphabet letters and tried to explain the problem with my daughter. When I was done the pediatrician leaned back a little and wrinkled her nose. She frankly looked a little repulsed.

“Hold on,” she said. “Let me get the behavioral therapist.”

It wasn’t always like this. After my boy-girl twins were born, I often received compliments on how happy my babies seemed. After about eight months of age, my son stayed the same chill little guy. But in my daughter, I saw a change. At first I thought she must have a slightly more volatile temperament, and that it was only now beginning to show. But after she was a year old, it became apparent that I was dealing with something a little more serious. The slightest thing could set my daughter off—or nothing at all. And when she got upset, it wasn’t like a normal toddler getting upset. She was hysterical. It was like someone had lit her on fire. She screamed, and kept screaming, as though in mortal agony, for as long as two hours at a time. Continue reading

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What If….

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Learn From The Donkey!

Numbers 22:27  And when the donkey saw the angel of the Lord, she fell down under Balaam: and Balaam’s anger was kindled, and he smote the donkey with a staff.

People that know me know I am very much an animal lover. Our dear and precious grand dogs are very important to me. As I look at the story of the talking donkey and Balaam in the Old Testament I can’t help but be a little amused. The donkey had more sense than the human. Doesn’t that seem to be the case much of the time.

That poor donkey!

That poor donkey!

─Three times the donkey saw the Angel of the Lord trying to stop Balaam from proceeding on and all three times Balaam beats the donkey for stopping. The trouble is, Balaam doesn’t see the angel.  The donkey sees the angel and keeps trying to go another way.  She turns into a field and gets beaten.  She presses close to a wall, crushing Balaam’s foot, and gets beaten again.  Finally, she simply sits down.  When she is beaten again for this last bit of disobedience, God does a wonderful thing.  Before God opens Balaam’s eyes and allows him to see the angel, God opens the donkey’s mouth and lets her speak up for herself!  As it turns out, she has saved Balaam’s life, and Balaam acknowledges that his donkey is more righteous than he. He is the prophet of the Lord and she is a donkey, but the donkey could see what he could not. Balaam tried to take things into his own hands when it would have been better for him to stop and wait for God’s guidance.─

Being in the ministry I see that many times men & women in places of position within the church just ride through like Balaam. There are some that try to talk with us about the way they think we may be handling a situation of the path that is being taken but all we do is beat them down. We would never think that God may be using the ‘donkey’ to see something that we do not see. How could that be? I am in _____ position! They should never to speak to me like this! I wonder how many times Balaam was sorry he thought that?

RIP my sweet Fleetwood
Just as my sweet grand dog, Fleetwood taught me so much about life and love, this story needs to remind us of the humility we need to have. None of us are considered special when it comes to discerning the will or presence of God. He so willing sees us all the same ─ His Child! He sure did use Fleetwood to teach me much and in this story he used the beast of the earth to teach Balaam.  So when someone offers you advise or is talking about the things the Lord has shown them ─ maybe they are the ones who can truly see the Lord.

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Dutch Amish Funnel Cakes Recipe

If  you are like me, then that  scrupulous cake like batter that is poured through a funnel into hot fat or oil, deep-fried until crisp, and served with sprinkled with sugar, IS the carnival!  It originated from the Pennsylvania Dutch Amish.  As with most of the Amish recipes they are always a winner!  We usually try to improve on them but always come back to the original because it is the Best!  This is the recipe that was passed down to me.

Dutch Amish Funnel Cakefunnel cake

* 2 cups flour
* 1 tblsp. baking powder
* 1 tsp. salt
* 2 cups milk
* 2 eggs, separated
* 2 tblsp. melted butter

Sift together in a bowl the flour, salt and baking powder. Beat the egg yolks and add the milk. Pour milk mixture slowly into the dry ingredients and beat to a smooth batter. Add the melted butter then fold in the stiffly beaten egg whites. Bake on hot griddle. Makes about 12 cakes.  (This can also be substituted by dripping into hot oil)

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