If we only knew the whole story why people make some of the decisions they make. …..

  As Christians, we were not intended to live in agreement with the way the world views right and wrong. I have a renewed desire to be a known as someone of peace in a violent world. Someone of forgiveness in a society full of hate and anger. I pray that God’s people will take a stand, together as a community, to loudly declare the Gospel that Christ gave His Life for us to have. What has happened to many who claim to have been set apart for the gospel of Christ?

As Christians, death no longer has a hold of fear for us because we know that death is not our final destination. Everyday we learn anew how to trust God for our every need because He already knows all of our needs even before we ask. We should have no desire to be defined by our looks, our wealth, our belongings, or our importance in society but to be known as a follower of Christ.  A follower of the One who gave all He had …for us. Oh what peace in knowing that He will never take His love away from us. Nothing that we will face in this world can take away the inheritance we have in Christ.

God did not send His Son to make us more religious but to teach us how to pattern our life after Jesus. Jesus allowed himself to be subjected to all the darkness, evil, and violence of this world… and yet He triumphed over it.  God loves us so much and He will give us victory over all the tragedies and sufferings we have to endure.  He has given us eternal life that death cannot shake and Living Water that will always satisfy our thirst. He is our Bread of Life and only He can fill our hunger.

We must take a stand and be a voice for those who can not speak or an advocate for those who have been abandoned and ignored by society. We must take a stand for those who battle with depression, anxiety, and all mental illnesses to help with their feelings of being broken. 

We no longer search to find help for the poor, the widow, the orphan, or the mentally ill.  We seek the approval of the affluent and the powerful.  Something is wrong. So very wrong.

Why are we allowing the Gospel of Christ to become so watered down?  We make an appearance to church on Sunday and we believe that will take care of the idols we have been living by and with during the week. We want to quote stirring and uplifting quotes we have heard yet we never pick up the Word He left for us.

Why don’t we look like him? Why aren’t we known by our love, our self-sacrificing life, our compassion? When we are as fearful of tomorrow and materialistic as everyone else, when His love no longer permeates our lives and hearts, something is wrong. God will not be a counterfeit God.

Do we believe God is impressed with us because we did attend church and we always make charitable contributions by giving to the poor at Christmas time. We are meant to be strangers in this land but instead too many of us are becoming willing participants in it. We find it more appealing to follow the world’s rules than to live the life of complete surrender. Our treasures are not to be laid up in this land where we don’t belong but in heaven where we will live for eternity.

We are getting a strong sense of security…where we don’t belong.


“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.”  –Thich Nhat Hanh

My Self Description:

  • I  am a nurturer.
  • I am uncomfortable accepting praise and will usually deflect it to praise someone else.
  • It is hard for me to say no and will usually do whatever it takes to make things happen for other people when asked.
  • I am over-apologetic even when it is not necessary or not my fault.

When I say that I need to love myself, I’m not implying to be the prideful, worldly type of loving oneself, I’m talking about an idea of being grateful and appreciating the person who God made. The worldly type of loving myself is where I am not prideful and arrogant. Since I am and have been surrounded with and was brought up in a family of a long list of narcissists who always blames others for their actions, I was overcompensating by going the opposite direction. The type of loving myself I am talking about is based upon humility and thankfulness. The two could not be more different!

Here are some things I am working on and am learning.  Do you see yourself in this?

  • The amount of bondage from not loving myself was affecting me both emotionally and physically.
  • Low self esteem is not being happy with the person that God made in you.
  • I was considering myself as a homely and voiceless person even though others told me differently.
  • I could not let myself forgive for the things I had done in the past that were embarrassing or even for my social awkwardness.
  • I am always defeated regardless of how hard I try. I continue to push to reach impossible ambitions just to feel like I am worthy of being here.

I have purposed in my heart that I am going to begin to love the person that God created. God created my body, my mind, my emotions, intellect. What I put into my mind and heart is what people will see. God did not intend for me to see myself as I was viewing myself. In Genesis 1:26 It says, “Let us make man in our image….” God’s image is beautiful and that is how He wants me to view myself.

I will continue to work on this…..And believe that God knew exactly what He was doing when HE created me!

“Self esteem is just a belief. It takes as much effort to believe you have low self esteem as it does to believe you have high self esteem. All you need to do when experiencing low self esteem is to change your belief about yourself. Remember that no one can give or take away your self esteem.”

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Have you ever been in a position that you have been blamed of projecting a certain position on something and you know that was not what your intention was? The person that is accusing you has so twisted what you said and made it into what they wanted you to say. The one accusing denies their own behavior but accuses you or someone else of doing exactly what they are doing. Wow, does this get confusing!?

I believe they do see the bad behavior they are doing but they do not want to admit there can be any negative behavior in their-self so they have to attribute that image to someone else. The more they focus on other people the more the focus becomes on them. It doesn’t take long before everyone starts to see it.

It has taken me a while to learn that you can not change that person. That person must want to change. If they make accusations of others and they are always the victim then there will never be an opportunity for defense. If they make an accusation against you and they see you angry just one time, that is all they need to call you an angry person!

Their deception or denial of the attacks they have made are all normal in dealing with the attacks. The family usually ends up in a depressive state and begins to withdraw and hide from the abuse. It is best to walk away and pray they will get the help they need to change who they are. You can keep your head held high knowing that you tried your best to be a friend when others could not befriend them. You can not change them.

Often they will self diagnose medical problems to gain attention. This is part of the emotional disease. They know the right buttons to push for the intended response.

Please seek help for yourself in dealing with a person of this nature. It can be life changing and heart breaking at the same time. I did.

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We’ve all known people that it is never their fault. Right?

They like to find someone to blame their problems on so they never have to take responsibility of them,
The anger and self-righteousness are a disturbing feeling of excitement to them because it means they are off the hook for their own issues.

It takes a mature person to accept and admit they have screwed up their own life up.

All by themselves. Their negative thinking, always fantasizing in their mind, then letting others know how it is someone else that has caused the problem. They never acknowledge that they may actually be the problem.

It is abuse to their family and all those who have to interact with this type of person.
They usually make people anxious about being around them, and they are never truly respected because of the displays of their weaknesses. The problem is that many times they get the help …too late… after the people that did love them,  chose to not associate with them anymore. Their family suffers so much undeserving abuse.

And the cycle continues……if you do not seek professional help.

~You deserve it ~Your family deserves it~

~The world needs the wonderful you!~

Take control of your life by blaming other less – Fix You
Your Negative thinking is making life hard for your family and you – Fix You
Try admitting your mistakes and decide to – Fix You

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I sat next to a white wall decorated with neon alphabet letters and tried to explain the problem with my daughter. When I was done the pediatrician leaned back a little and wrinkled her nose. She frankly looked a little repulsed.

“Hold on,” she said. “Let me get the behavioral therapist.”

It wasn’t always like this. After my boy-girl twins were born, I often received compliments on how happy my babies seemed. After about eight months of age, my son stayed the same chill little guy. But in my daughter, I saw a change. At first I thought she must have a slightly more volatile temperament, and that it was only now beginning to show. But after she was a year old, it became apparent that I was dealing with something a little more serious. The slightest thing could set my daughter off—or nothing at all. And when she got upset, it wasn’t like a normal toddler getting upset. She was hysterical. It was like someone had lit her on fire. She screamed, and kept screaming, as though in mortal agony, for as long as two hours at a time. Read the rest of this entry »

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Numbers 22:27  And when the donkey saw the angel of the Lord, she fell down under Balaam: and Balaam’s anger was kindled, and he smote the donkey with a staff.

People that know me know I am very much an animal lover. Our dear and precious grand dogs are very important to me. As I look at the story of the talking donkey and Balaam in the Old Testament I can’t help but be a little amused. The donkey had more sense than the human. Doesn’t that seem to be the case much of the time.

That poor donkey!

That poor donkey!

─Three times the donkey saw the Angel of the Lord trying to stop Balaam from proceeding on and all three times Balaam beats the donkey for stopping. The trouble is, Balaam doesn’t see the angel.  The donkey sees the angel and keeps trying to go another way.  She turns into a field and gets beaten.  She presses close to a wall, crushing Balaam’s foot, and gets beaten again.  Finally, she simply sits down.  When she is beaten again for this last bit of disobedience, God does a wonderful thing.  Before God opens Balaam’s eyes and allows him to see the angel, God opens the donkey’s mouth and lets her speak up for herself!  As it turns out, she has saved Balaam’s life, and Balaam acknowledges that his donkey is more righteous than he. He is the prophet of the Lord and she is a donkey, but the donkey could see what he could not. Balaam tried to take things into his own hands when it would have been better for him to stop and wait for God’s guidance.─

Being in the ministry I see that many times men & women in places of position within the church just ride through like Balaam. There are some that try to talk with us about the way they think we may be handling a situation of the path that is being taken but all we do is beat them down. We would never think that God may be using the ‘donkey’ to see something that we do not see. How could that be? I am in _____ position! They should never to speak to me like this! I wonder how many times Balaam was sorry he thought that?

RIP my sweet Fleetwood
Just as my sweet grand dog, Fleetwood taught me so much about life and love, this story needs to remind us of the humility we need to have. None of us are considered special when it comes to discerning the will or presence of God. He so willing sees us all the same ─ His Child! He sure did use Fleetwood to teach me much and in this story he used the beast of the earth to teach Balaam.  So when someone offers you advise or is talking about the things the Lord has shown them ─ maybe they are the ones who can truly see the Lord.

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If  you are like me, then that  scrupulous cake like batter that is poured through a funnel into hot fat or oil, deep-fried until crisp, and served with sprinkled with sugar, IS the carnival!  It originated from the Pennsylvania Dutch Amish.  As with most of the Amish recipes they are always a winner!  We usually try to improve on them but always come back to the original because it is the Best!  This is the recipe that was passed down to me.

Dutch Amish Funnel Cakefunnel cake

* 2 cups flour
* 1 tblsp. baking powder
* 1 tsp. salt
* 2 cups milk
* 2 eggs, separated
* 2 tblsp. melted butter

Sift together in a bowl the flour, salt and baking powder. Beat the egg yolks and add the milk. Pour milk mixture slowly into the dry ingredients and beat to a smooth batter. Add the melted butter then fold in the stiffly beaten egg whites. Bake on hot griddle. Makes about 12 cakes.  (This can also be substituted by dripping into hot oil)

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Me!  Me!  Me!

Me! Me! Me!

Did anyone else experience Christmas being ruined because their someone ‘special’ in the family wasn’t able to control everything about Christmas? It always happens it seems. I suppose the word is narcissists. They always spoil the special family holidays. Their need for attention and control always rises to new levels.

Do they get excited about the holiday thinking they will be the center of attention? We must remember that everything has to revolve around them and in the order they give for them to be happy. As long as we follow their prescribed order everything will be just fine!
Now the time has come that the cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents all get to come together. The anxiety begins to rise because out of all the people someone is not going to like her. Her comfort level is now threatened! She can not attend or else has to direct attention elsewhere in a dramatic scene. Suddenly what should have been a wonderful time has now become a time that she has ruined again.

It is always the same title different story. Whether the marine ball, school party for the kids, office party, it all must revolve around the her and her narcissistic behavior. At all cost she must be comfortable and must be noticed.

So keep this in mind when you choose to socialize with this friend, family member, or worker. Are they really worth it? Of course there is going to be a scene! Unless you are willing to always be her crony, laugh at her jokes, think her funny gifts are the greatest, you will never be on their “like” list.

You decide to have a good Christmas yourself. Just go on and know that the narcissist defines themselves by the way they act. Everyone already knows. If not, it will not be long.

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