Who Is The Victim?

Have you ever been in a position that you have been blamed of projecting a certain position on something and you know that was not what your intention was? The person that is accusing you has so twisted what you said and made it into what they wanted you to say. The one accusing denies their own behavior but accuses you or someone else of doing exactly what they are doing. Wow, does this get confusing!?

I believe they do see the bad behavior they are doing but they do not want to admit there can be any negative behavior in their-self so they have to attribute that image to someone else. The more they focus on other people the more the focus becomes on them. It doesn’t take long before everyone starts to see it.

It has taken me a while to learn that you can not change that person. That person must want to change. If they make accusations of others and they are always the victim then there will never be an opportunity for defense. If they make an accusation against you and they see you angry just one time, that is all they need to call you an angry person!

Their deception or denial of the attacks they have made are all normal in dealing with the attacks. The family usually ends up in a depressive state and begins to withdraw and hide from the abuse. It is best to walk away and pray they will get the help they need to change who they are. You can keep your head held high knowing that you tried your best to be a friend when others could not befriend them. You can not change them.

Often they will self diagnose medical problems to gain attention. This is part of the emotional disease. They know the right buttons to push for the intended response.

Please seek help for yourself in dealing with a person of this nature. It can be life changing and heart breaking at the same time. I did.

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You Are Worth Fixing

We’ve all known people that it is never their fault. Right?

They like to find someone to blame their problems on so they never have to take responsibility of them,
The anger and self-righteousness are a disturbing feeling of excitement to them because it means they are off the hook for their own issues.

It takes a mature person to accept and admit they have screwed up their own life up.

All by themselves. Their negative thinking, always fantasizing in their mind, then letting others know how it is someone else that has caused the problem. They never acknowledge that they may actually be the problem.

It is abuse to their family and all those who have to interact with this type of person.
They usually make people anxious about being around them, and they are never truly respected because of the displays of their weaknesses. The problem is that many times they get the help …too late… after the people that did love them,  chose to not associate with them anymore. Their family suffers so much undeserving abuse.

And the cycle continues……if you do not seek professional help.

~You deserve it ~Your family deserves it~

~The world needs the wonderful you!~

Take control of your life by blaming other less – Fix You
Your Negative thinking is making life hard for your family and you – Fix You
Try admitting your mistakes and decide to – Fix You

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The gluten made her do it: How going gluten free saved my daughter’s mental health

I absolutely believe in everything about this article and that is why I’m sharing it.  Please read it.    Shared from http://www.anchoragepress.com

I sat next to a white wall decorated with neon alphabet letters and tried to explain the problem with my daughter. When I was done the pediatrician leaned back a little and wrinkled her nose. She frankly looked a little repulsed.

“Hold on,” she said. “Let me get the behavioral therapist.”

It wasn’t always like this. After my boy-girl twins were born, I often received compliments on how happy my babies seemed. After about eight months of age, my son stayed the same chill little guy. But in my daughter, I saw a change. At first I thought she must have a slightly more volatile temperament, and that it was only now beginning to show. But after she was a year old, it became apparent that I was dealing with something a little more serious. The slightest thing could set my daughter off—or nothing at all. And when she got upset, it wasn’t like a normal toddler getting upset. She was hysterical. It was like someone had lit her on fire. She screamed, and kept screaming, as though in mortal agony, for as long as two hours at a time.